FERTILITY TEST: CONCLUSION OF THE WHOLE MATTER

[Abigail pereowei]

Children are gifts from God. Couples feel blessed, gratified to have them in their lives. I know the joy I feel whenever I am in Port Harcourt with my children. It is a joy I can neither utterly describe nor quantify.

Among other reasons, people marry to have and groom their own children that will look after them when they are old and also become positive members of society.

But it's not in all cases that couples reproduce their kind. Sometimes, for some reason, people find it hard to have biological children.

Thus the admonition is for such partners to seek medical help early, by visiting a good hospital together to know the cause of the delay and religiously do what the specialist recommends.

Sadly, there are many cases where some men dump the burden and responsibility for their wives alone, as though they don't need children; as though the women are solely responsible for their predicament - without any verifiable evidence.

There are reported cases where men would blame the wives for their childlessness while not subjecting themselves to fertility tests.

One wonders what such men are afraid of. One wonders if such men know they could be suffering from low sperm count and whatnot, and no matter how fertile the woman could be, she may be unable to conceive through their sweet moments.

Fertility tests exist to identify such a small but big problem, if there is any. Proper medical examinations will definitely confirm if there is a hormonal imbalance preventing pregnancy. But it is the doctor that will provide solutions to any fertility issues that may be discovered.

Men need to start knowing, accepting and living with the fact that we can also be suffering from low sperm count, not just erectile dysfunction, quick ejaculation, etcetera. And that it is not right to always blame women for their ability to conceive, especially when we have no medical proof to show that the fault is theirs.

Heaven will not fall and you will not be reduced from your "high level" if you join your woman to undertake a fertility examination in a reputable medical facility, possibly of your choice.

You need children yet you are not making strategic efforts to have the children. You think madam is the problem and are allowing some of your family members to rubbish her because of the temporary challenge that can be solved.

What if the fault is from you? What if you are infertile? What if a previous infection or lifestyle is causing that condition? What if you need sperm boosting? What if your wife only needs some supplements to conceive? What if there is a need to treat a recent infection causing the problem? No forget sey you be wakaman.

The longer you delay, the longer it may take for you to have a child of your own with that woman you love and married to stay forever with.

You don't need to be stubborn about it: also go and examine your body at the hospital just as you are believably funding your woman to examine and solve the problem.

For the unmarried men, please don't stress that woman with your "carry bele for me or born pikin so that we go quickly marry" talk.

You can confirm the fertility or otherwise of every human being. So if you think she has damaged her womb or has hormonal issues that may prevent her from conceiving, kindly take her to the hospital to confirm/disprove your fears and not to funnily think that one yahoo boy has used her womb for money ritual.

May God grant us the wisdom to do the needful and have our own children that will give us joy.

This is the import of my admonition and the conclusion of this whole matter.

~ Sam Dogitimi

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